What are you supposed to say for a Maid of honor speech?

oh goodness—ANY funny little EMBARRASSING story will do—some stupid thing the two of you did together or JUST HER or something SHE took the blame for that YOU did… or how much trouble she used to get into—and how her hubby should watch out… (in a cute way)–ALWAYS make it like a joke…and then you could say how HAPPY you are for your sister for her marrying such a great guy (if you THINK he is a great guy)…. and how much you love her and wish her all the happiness in the world…..

something a little funny folowed by something sincere from your heart.

Don’t refer to old boyfriends, sexual acts with the groom, or dead relationships. If you want to tell an amusing story do so but don’ try and laugh about that time your parents busted them making out in the driveway at the wedding. some people just won’t find it appropriate and you don’t know what they have/havn’t told people about that sort of thing. Talking about deceased people may dampen the mood so think about the crowd before you do.

Believe it or not I was at one wedding where the MOH mentioned all of the above three things. It was horrible and the bride/groom got in a huge fight because apparently he didn’t know she had dated one of his friends.

Obviously as a guy, I’ve never given a Maid of Honor speech, but I have been on the best man side. When people ask about best man speeches, this is the answer I always give them. There is nothing concrete about my answer, just pick and choose the parts that work for you:

While I have never seen a Maid of Honor have a problem with drinking too much before dinner, I’m sure it can happen. It may or may not apply to you, but lay off the booze until after the speech.

ur job is to make sure things run smooth, even if they are not running smooth. You are the conductor, you are the brains, and you are the muscle.

You don’t want to wing a Maid of Honor/Best man speech. I am not saying you need to have it written word for word, but you should have some ideas what to say. At the very least, have some notes written on a piece of paper or a napkin outlining what you are going to talk about.

Here is a rough outline I’d recommend (add or remove content as appropriate):

1. Intro and/or common ground: Start with an introduction. If it suits you, start with a joke about the groom or the bride (EDIT…I removed the hookers in Tijuana line as that would probably be more of a guy thing…for a woman…don’t mention the vacation romance she had on the white beaches of Maui or the amazing times she had with a dashing young man on a work trip to Chicago…or the male dancer fondling her at the bacholerette party). You can establish common ground with the audience if you are the joking type such as commenting on a unique event that has happened so far during the day, talk about what a beautiful day it is for a wedding, or something that people in the audience can relate to and grab their attention.

2. Who are you and why are you there? This will only be a few sentances. Obviously the bride/groom chose you for a reason. Tell people who you are as not everyone will know you. Also comment why you are there. Are you the brides brother, the grooms best friends, etc…

3. Give thanks. You are in a position of honor in the wedding. Thank the bride, groom, and any other appropriate people for allowing you to hold such a special place in the wedding.

4. Share your insight into the groom and the brides relationship. If you think the groom and the bride are a great couple, tell people why. Speak from the heart. Tell a story of the first time you seen the bride and groom together. Tell a story of how the bride completed the groom, etc. Tell the audience something about the bride and groom that most people won’t know.

5. If you are in the position to do so, share a little advice. If you have been dating the same man for years or are married already, fell free to share a small tidbit that helped you contribute to your happiness. Don’t get wordy on this part. You want it to feel loving, not wordy like a lecture

6. Best wishes: Wish the bride and groom well. Say something from the heart and express your love for them. Don’t be afraid to tell the bride and groom how much they mean to you and how much you love them (people have problems with expressing love in front of strangers, but expressing love for people is something we never do enough of)

7. Conclusion: This can be several things. You can write a short love poem to share. If you are well versed in literature, you can share an excerpt from a book, play, or poem that captures the love and timelessness of the situation. You can give thanks to the bride and groom again and kind of recap section 3 and section 6.

8. Toast: Raise your glasses and toast the bride and groom.

The whole speech should be under 2 minutes, give or take. Speak from the heart. The best speeches are ones where the person giving the speech has their heart and their emotions in it. The best speeches are the ones you feel and are a part of you. Keep your speech appropriate for your audience and if you think something you are thinking about talking about is inappropriate, it probably is. Finally, be prepared to improvise somewhat. If the audience is board out of their mind, give the Cliff Notes version of the speech and get off stage. Speek slowly and relax. This is an opportunity to show your love, it is not an inquest.

Go ahead and google Maid of Honor and best man speeches and you can get some good ideas as to content and format. When I have given speeches, I sometimes based my speeches off of content from a couple of web sites (customize the content for your situation obviously).

Good Luck and enjoy yourself….lay off the alcohol until after dinner!

FOR THE SPEECH YOU TALK ABOUT THE BRIDE YOUR SISTER, YOU CAN MAKE JOKES, TELLING FUNNY STORIES OF GROWING UP, OR JUST BE SINCERE OF HOW YOU FEEL ABOUT HER. YOU CAN ALSO TELL SOMETHING SHE TOLD YOU ABOUT MEETING HER HUSBAND OR A DATE SHE SHARED. YOU CAN ALSO RECITE A POEM FOR THE OCCASION. MY COUSINS WEDDING THE MAID OF HONOR HOW TOLD US HOW HER AND THE BRIDE HAD PLANNED THEIR WEDDINGS WHEN THEY WERE KIDS AND HAD PROMISED EACH OTHER THEY WOULD BE THE MAID OF HONOR FOR EACH OF THE WEDDINGS.

Hehe, I was a bridesmaid for my sister last November! You have to toast the Groomsmen and say how charming and handsome they look!

Don’t drink first. Speak from the heart. Write it down and practice.

Keep it short. Say something nice about your new Brother-in-law. How happy you are etc. Don’t do stand-up or say anything that would offend Grandma.

The Maid of honor has a bit more difficult job than the Best man. The Best Man normally speaks first. After that, either the Maid of Honor can go ahead with the speech she planned ahead of time, or the Maid of Honor needs to do damage control, if the Best Man’s speech was inappropriate.

For example, if the Best Man told an inappropriate story in his speech, the Maid of Honor can say: “Hmm. Well, I don’t have any stories quite that colorful (insert relieved guest laughter here) but let me tell you about this couple. I remember when (Bride) and I…..(Touching story here).

Think about the couple..write down stories, memories and things about you and your sister…write about the wishes for the happy couple’s future. Keep the speech light, funny, touching and reasonably short!! Avoid the urge to rattle on…keep it short, simple and special.

Good luck!

keep it short and sweet noone wants to listen to you blabber on… do not mention exs or anything! I would since its ur sister tell the groom jokingly what to expect family wise entering into your family for instance my sisters wedding i said your in for a treat entering into our family! Heres some advice for you when coming to my moms never expect the furniture or wall color to be the same as last time if you know my mom she changes the rooms around as often as she colors her hair! just little stuff try to lighten the mood and no crying because the bide will cry then both your make up will be ruined!